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 TALKING STAGE

Now that I am 27 years old, let me tell you guys about my talking stage experience-S. It's been a while since I'm writing here, last time rasanya time zaman universiti dulu. Why i kat sini balik menulis blog? Maybe sebab haritu aku tengok blog Maria Elena kot, bosan-bosan baca blog ni best jugak. Tau kenapa? Sebab apa yang ditulis tu memang ikhlas dari lubuk hati jiwa raga penulis blog tu.

Dalam kehidupan aku ni memang banyak fasa 'talking stage' ni. mungkin sebab sekarang kita terdedah dengan banyak apps and internet amatlah accessible, like everywhere kan? Tipu lah kalau aku cakap sepanjang chatting with those guys takde yang aku attached. nipuuuu benau pulak. Tapi you must know your life target and what kind of men yang you want to be friends with or in your 'husband to be' list. Kenapa? Supaya tak buang masa kenal ramai orang yang tak bawa apa-apa faedah to you pun. 

Bagi pendapat aku lah, memang bernasib baik sape yang jumpa life partner on the go tu, lots of happy moments can be created together and most importantly with the right person. Takde lah gallery penuh dengan gambar orang-orang yang mungkin satu hari kau tak nak ingat pun pasal dia. 

Questions to ask during the talking stage (me version)

Age

Mungkin bagi sesetengah orang umur tak memainkan peranan, but for me it is. Pernah tau aku keluar dengan sorang mamat ni and he lied about his age. I don't mind if he's older than me but he's younger than me 3 years kot??? Dia baik je, sopan santun and have vision in life. TAPI I don't think he should start our relationship with a lie. Macam mana aku tau dia tipu tu biarlah rahsia sebab nanti korang yang baca mesti cakap aku kepoci hahahahha. But girlss why nak tipu kan :<

Hobbies

It's a bonus if you have a common interest with him/her. A lot of activities you guys boleh plan together and maybe during the activities you boleh kenal dia dengan lebih dalam. I saw lots of couples yang mula dengan hiking together contohnya then end up kahwin and even after dah kahwin pun bawak their baby hiking sekali jugak, kind of cute that way tho. Okay je kalau hobby lain-lain pun asalkan both parties is okay with each other hobby. Dah kalau mamat tu minat main futsal takkan you yang perempuan pun nak join? haha tak ke jem kepala otak dia kan hehe. Maybe boleh cari new hobbies or activity yang you both can participate, in that way I think dua-dua akan dapat manfaatnya.

Religion

Kalau religion practices tu penting bagi you I think this question is a should ask question before you guys keluar dating or berjumpa. Ye lah kalau you memang jenis tak tinggal solat tiba-tiba keluar he/she jenis tak solat mungkin akan slack sikit kat situ, but if you rasa benda ni you boleh bincang and tolerate then I think it's okay. 

Lifestyle

Hot question jugak ni ye. Dari sini pun you dah boleh tapis he/she ikut you guys punya lifestyle. Some of us might still lives with parents and some might not. Also during this talking stage pun dah boleh tanya about smoking , partner preference, family person or not etc etc. Penting jugak lah bagi aku sebabnya dulu waktu stay dengan family, the guy yang tengah berkenalan ni asyik lah ajak aku keluar malam and aku pulak ada strict parents ( i love them) so yeah nampak tak masalah kat situ? So obviously a no lah from my parents kan. 

Conclusionnyaaaa, before you accept someone in your life maybe you should think for a while and reminisce about what you want in life and for your future-self too. Do not have a mindset yang you perlu ada girlfriend or boyfriend in life to be happy. At least if you have best friends and family, i rasa benda macam ni tak perlu rushing pun.

Till we meet again, maybe next 2 years???😜